3 Fun ways to reconnect with your partner today!

In the beginning of relationships, attraction, dating, getting to know someone, and sex is exciting. Two people meet, they spend time together, are instantly attracted or become attracted to each other over time, develop romantic feelings and then decide to get into a committed romantic relationship with each other. They are now officially a couple!

Things are fun, sexy, exciting, and new. Emotions are heightened and you feel good about yourself and each other. You want to spend as much time with each other, you go on interesting and exciting dates, you want to check in or have long phone conversations. Yes, things are amazing in the beginning and there is nothing quite like it.

But what often happens to relationships after some time? Life happens.

A couple gets sucked into their daily normal routines again. They go to school, they go to work, they try to juggle responsibilities like grocery shopping, keeping appointments, spending time with family or friends. They keep dating and spending time together, but that initial, exciting buzz starts to slow down.

Handholding, kisses and sex start to slow down a little and maybe a couple doesn’t spend as much time together as before.

However, for some it’s like people have forgotten the whole point of a romantic relationship. A romantic relationship is supposed to have a little something extra. And sometimes, that little something extra seems like it got lost. Has this happened to you? Or is this happening to you right now?!

HAVE NO FEAR MY SWEETS! This doesn’t mean your relationship is broken and it doesn’t mean you are doomed. This is something that can be common even in the most loving and healthy relationships— so like don’t feel bad or down on yourself.

It just means that you have to be a little more mindful about the energy and intention that you want to bring into your relationships.

Here are 3 fun ways to reconnect to your partner today!

But before I get started with the 3 fun tips. I want to add an additional pregame tip: just to get you in the right mindset.

Pre Game Tip : Go to your closet and pick out your favorite outfit. Wear those pair of jeans that make your butt look good. Put on that perfume that you absolutely love. Wear your favorite comfortable Tshirt that makes you feel sexy. If you for some reason, can’t find that outfit. Go shopping for a piece of clothing, some accessories, get your nails done, get some perfume samples, do something that will help you feel like your old sexy self. But I want you do to this in advance. Do it a weekend or a few days before your decide to try one of these activities.

If you feel like you need to psych yourself up even more, try this for a few weeks. At least one day out of the week, I want you to channel your inner sexy person. It’s been a while since you saw her right? Don’t do this for your partner, but do it for you. You are doing this for yourself, so you feel good about yourself again and get excited to take care of yourself again. And when you feel good, you bring those good feelings to the activities and people around you.

So let’s have some fun.

Activity #1 : PICK OUT SOMETHING BRAND NEW TO DO TOGETHER.

Novelty breeds excitement and exciting feelings make for fun dates and feelings of connection. Don’t go have the same food you always have. Don’t go to the same theater you always go to. Don’t go to the same lounges or bars. THIS IS PROBABLY WHAT LED TO YOU FEELING LIKE YOU ARE IN A RUT. Sometimes familiar things and places can feel a little boring. Check in with your partner and discuss the new thing you want to do together. Is it a new type fo restaurant? Is it a new brewery or winery? Have you been eyeing a new cooking class? Have you guys been wanting to spend time with some new friends. Or do you guys want to check out a new city for the weekend, where everything is new !? MAKE SURE IT IS NEW AND UNKNOWN AND COME WITH THE SPIRIT OF CURIOSITY. Doing something like this more regularly gives you something to look forward to and something to talk about later.

Activity #2 : DO SOMETHING THAT WILL CREATE SOME ADRENALINE. Adrenaline is fun and exciting and nothing quite beats a slump like doing something that creates a little adrenaline. Is it flirting in taboo place? Is it going to a theme park and riding the fastest or tallest roller coaster ? Is it trying a ZipLine or driving a go cart real fast? Is it visiting a haunted house or taking a guided tour of the spookiest places in the city. ( spooky season is here folks!) and getting the lights scared out of you? Is it maybe trying an escape room and figuring out a way out? If you are not totally sure what to pick, head to GROUPON for some ideas on what sorts of activities there could be. This is a great starting place to see what sorts of different experiences there are and sometimes you will find some great discounts.

Activity #3 DO SOMETHING CHEESY OR CHILDLIKE TOGETHER. Remember childhood? You had a totally different way of looking at the world before you grew up! Tap into doing a cheesy activity together or something that you may have enjoyed as a child. These activities can give you the giggles, or let you have a little bit of child like wonder. Give yourself permission to enjoy or do some of the things you might have liked to have done as a child. Be curious, be open, be supportive to yourself. Don’t shut things down as “being too childish”. Children are able to find a way have fun in most circumstances and you are trying to tap into that energy. Have you always wanted to have a “Harry Potter” marathon where you have Harry Potter inspired treats all while wearing your Harry Potter PJs? Try it! Have you always wanted to go to Disneyland or Knott’s Berry Farm without the kids? Go! Did you ever want to see Medieval Times Show or check our a pirate dinner? Take this as a sign. Or did you ever want to check out a circus event:? Look that up and get some damn tickets! Sometimes the cheesier, the better! Take pictures, take video, enjoy yourselves and laugh about it later.

Another rule of thumb here: Don’t let one person do the planning all the time. People can run out of ideas and being the planner/ project manager of the relationship is no fun for a lot of people. It can lead to resentment and anger and make people feel like there is no effort being put into the relationship. So don’t be that person! Encourage each other to really think about contribution and surprise.

So there you have it. Three funs ways to reconnect with your partner. Do this often and make a habit out of being intentional about how you want to connect with your partner. Give each other some undivided time and attention and make the effort to enjoy each other’s company.

Happy dating!